Posts Tagged ‘motivation’

Is Your Liver Feeling Unappreciated?

Friday, November 7th, 2014

In the title of this post, I ask if your liver is feeling unappreciated. But that’s not exactly what I meant. The real question I want to ask you is, do any of your organs and body parts that are affected by your illness feel unappreciated? But there wasn’t enough room in the title to ask that, so I asked about your liver instead.

You probably haven’t been asked whether those organs and body parts feel unappreciated, and you’re probably wondering why I would ask you if yours do.

Here’s my answer: Imagine that, in a very difficult environment, you work hard for someone, striving to do the best job you can accomplishing a task that is very important to them. Then imagine that when you finish, instead of thanking you and expressing appreciation, the person you’ve been working for finds and criticizes you for all the imperfections, no matter how small, in the work you’ve done.

The fact that those imperfections are because you didn’t have the tools you needed and because of the tough work environment are completely ignored, and the criticism is harsh, and it stings.

If you had an experience like that, you would feel awful. And if you had to do the job again in the future, you probably would not have any motivation to do it well. So you would do it halfheartedly at best.

Getting back to your organs and body parts, they are made up of cells, which are living organisms. And all organisms, including you, animals, plants, and your body’s cells, respond similarly to the way you and I do to positive emotions like love and communications of appreciation, and they also respond similarly to negative emotions like anger and communications of criticism.

So to keep your afflicted organs working their best, even though they’re not working as well as you wish they were, let them know you appreciate them and let them know that you know they are doing the best job they can even though they have been afflicted and affected by illness.

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Why You Should Ditch Your To-Do List

Saturday, March 1st, 2014

In this post, I’m going to tell you why you should get rid of your to-do list, and what to replace it with. I wish I had learned this years ago, but I’m very glad I finally did. I think you will be too.

I heard about it from a woman named Monica (if she gives me permission, I’ll tell you her last name). I’m taking a 5-week prayer class at my church to become a prayer minister and she is one of my classmates.

Monica, who is many years younger than me (I wish I knew how she got to be so wise at such a young age!), shared in class that she has replaced her to-do list with a “want to experience” list. And as soon as I heard her say that, I realized what a powerful idea it was.

Creating and then looking at a to-do list can easily leave us feeling drained, especially one that has time-consuming, hard-to-do items on it. And when we get that way, it’s hard to feel motivated.

But if instead of making a to-do list, you make a want to experience list, you will most likely find yourself empowered and motivated.

For example, one item on a to-do list might be to exercise. Exercising is something that is unpleasant (or worse) for a lot of people, and can be especially hard if you have a chronic illness. But if on your “want to experience” list you write down “I want to experience the most enjoyable time I can with my children (or grandchildren if you’re my age)” and exercising is one of the things that will make that possible, then you are much more likely to exercise than you would be if it were just an item on your to-do list.

Just about everything on your to-do list, including taking medications, picking up the kids at school, buying a present or sending a card, making an appointment with your doctor, etc., can be restated as something you want to experience, and then put on that list. And when you do that, you’ll be much more likely to take the steps needed so you can have the experience, whether it’s of more peace, better health, more happiness, or anything else, that you want.

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Tom Robinson, who has a chronic illness (Crohn’s disease) himself, helps people with chronic illnesses meet their many challenges and then find and follow a path to happiness and fulfillment.

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Do You Have Something to Get Better For?

Saturday, June 30th, 2012

Have you ever thought about what you would do if got well? I haven’t done a scientific survey, but my sense from all those with chronic illness I’ve talked with is that most people haven’t.

Of course you want to get as well as you can. But what if the likelihood that you will get better depends on knowing what you will do if you do get better?

For a long time, I’ve had a strong sense that things do work that way: knowing what we do if we get better increases the probability that we will. But a new client I’ll call Karen, who suffers from chronic fatigue, described that sense better than I have. She said, “I have known that I won’t get better until I have something to get better for.”

Because of the situation another client—I’ll call her Terry–was in, I shared what Karen said with her. She was almost crying as she responded, saying that while she hadn’t realized it before, what Karen said was also true for her.

Is what is true for Karen and for Terry also true for you? I’m sure that for many of you, the answer is yes. And if your answer is yes, congratulations! By saying so, you’ve taken a big step toward getting better and having a better life.

The next step for Karen, for Terry, and for you if your answer was yes, is to find a “something to get better for.” Unfortunately, our upbringing, our roles (especially women’s roles care taking, nurturing, and people others first), and our illnesses can make it hard for us to do that. But when put our intention on finding a solution and we don’t censor ourselves, we humans are very creative – that’s how we’re made.

One pitfall some people fall into when trying to come up with a solution to a problem like this is thinking they have to get it right the first time. You don’t! If you try something and you find it’s not very enjoyable or fulfilling, then congratulate yourself. You’ve learned something about yourself, and you can use that new knowledge to find your “something to get better for.”

Best wishes in your quest!