Archive for January, 2014

Are You Part of the Problem, or Part of the Solution – in Your Own Life?

Friday, January 31st, 2014

You have probably heard the phrase “You’re either part of the solution or you’re part of the problem.” It comes from a talk Black Panther leader Eldridge Cleaver gave in 1968. After he said it, lots of organizations, including non-profits and government bodies began using it for themselves. You’ve probably heard or seen it many times.

A while back, I heard the phrase again, this time with a somewhat different twist, in a teleclass by results and success coach Michael Bernoff.

Michael asked those of us who were listening to the call to ask ourselves if we were being a part of the solution to the problems in our lives. I thought it was a great question, so I decided to use it in this post.

It is easy, as I’m sure you know (I sure do), to get depressed and anxious about our illness, including all the negative effects it has on out lives. All of us do that from time to time. It’s normal, and there is no reason to feel guilty about doing it.

However, I now know that I can lessen my depression and anxiety you can lessen your depression and anxiety – often a lot, but asking myself the simple question: How can I be a part of the solution in my own life?

You can too.

For some people, asking that question may be a hard thing to do, because they don’t think there is anything they can do to make things better. If you’re one of those people, you can ask yourself a second question, which is: I don’t think there is any way for me to be a part of the solution to the problems in my life, but if there were, what would it be?

Those of you who have read my other blog posts know that one of the ways that I encourage people with chronic illnesses to be a part of the solution to problems in their lives is to give themselves lots of compassion. You can learn some other ways by getting my free report (see the top right corner of the page to find out how to do that) and by reading some of my other posts. But the best way to get started is by asking yourself the questions in this post, with the intention of coming up with one or more answers to them.