Posts Tagged ‘live well anyway’

What would a knowledgeable person recommend that you do?

Monday, November 16th, 2009

If you have been reading my posts for more than a few weeks, you’ve probably gotten a sense of my approach to how you can meet whatever challenges you have and you’re your best possible life. If you haven’t been reading my posts, I invite you to read some of them now so you can get a sense of my approach.

Once you have a sense of my approach to helping people meet their illness challenges, then whenever you find yourself struggling with your symptoms and concerns, you can ask yourself “What would Tom suggest?”

Or, if there is someone else you know who has given you helpful answers to problems that are similar to the ones you’re facing now, you can ask yourself what that person would suggest.

There is an interesting story that goes with this tip: I came across the idea many years ago while reading Geoff Bellman’s book, “The Consultant’s Calling: Bringing Who You Are to What You Do.” Geoff is a highly regarded organization development consultant. In his book, he tells a story about a client who had made a series of decisions in her job that had worked out very well, and she gave him the credit. She said that for each decision, she asked herself “what would Geoff suggest that I do?” In response, Geoff congratulated her, and then he let her know her decisions were actually better and more innovative than the suggestions he would have given if she had actually asked him for them.

Chances are good that you will come up with some really good ideas for dealing with whatever challenges you currently have, maybe even better than ideas I would give you.

For more ideas of things you can do to have a much better life when you have a chronic illness, sign up for my free report: Having a Chronic Illness is the Pits – Here’s How to Live Well Anyway. When you do, you will also get my bi-weekly “Tips For How to Have a Better Life When You Have a Chronic Illness” (from which you can unsubscribe at any time).

Are You Holding Out?

Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

Here’s a question for you: Do you want to get well? Of course you do. All of us living with chronic illnesses want to get well.

Now here’s another question: Are you holding out for getting well? Here’s a similar question: If you found a penny on the sidewalk, would you gratefully pick it up? Or would you keep walking until you found a $1 or maybe a $5 bill on the ground?

What I’m getting at is that none of us with chronic illnesses knows if or when we will be cured. Maybe a miraculous new treatment will be found next year, but maybe one won’t be found, or at least not in our lifetime. Maybe we will discover the combination of standard and alternative treatments that puts our disease into permanent remission – and maybe we won’t.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not criticizing your desire to get well. I completely support and encourage you to do everything you can to regain your full health.

But from coaching many people and from my own struggle with a chronic illness, I know that people often overlook small steps they can take and things they can do to make their lives better right away. They can be simple things like getting some new houseplants or playing your child’s favorite board game with him or her. Or you can reach out to people, maybe some you haven’t talked to in a while.

I encourage you to choose whatever works best for you. Just make sure you keep taking steps to make your life better. And for more ideas of things you can do, you can sign up for my free report: Having a Chronic Illness is the Pits – Here’s How to Live Well Anyway. When you do, you will also get my bi-weekly “Tips For How to Have a Better Life When You Have a Chronic Illness” (from which you can unsubscribe at any time).