This post was inspired by a woman in an online support group that I participate in. Carol (not her real name) wrote to say she needed to vent because her house had become a mess. Because of a flare, she wasn’t able to keep up with the housework, and her husband played computer games instead of helping out (he had been choosing computer games over helping with housework for several years). The first idea that came to my mind was that they should find a marriage counselor, although I don’t know their relationship issues so I don’t know if that would help.
But here’s an idea that I think would help. Maybe it will also help you, with whatever illness related problems you are facing. Imagine that I have a million dollars to give away. To win that money, all you need to do is think of good ideas to make your life better. For every one you think of, I will give you $50,000. Just one small catch: the ideas can’t cost more to implement than you can afford right now. Even with that restriction, I bet that you could win a lot of money from me – very likely the entire $1,000,000.
I think you’ll agree that in the sitation I just described, you would think of many ideas to make your life with a chronic illness better – and if you agree, then we both know that you can come up with many good ideas for improving your life. I encourage you to give this game a try, because even though the prize money is imaginary, the improvement in your life that you will experience will be very real.
If Carol gives this a try and shares her results, which I hope she does, I’ll let you know how she does.