I have found, in my years as a chronic illness coach, that many people take better care of their pets than they do of themselves. For example, if their dog hurts its paw, most people will reassure it and sometimes even kiss the paw to “make it all better.” But if they stub their toe, they rarely give themselves any compassion and they often tell themselves how clumsy they are. And I know people who will take their pet to the vet when it’s in pain or if it needs a checkup, but minimize their own symptoms and pain, and not get any treatment for them.
Now, I have nothing against people taking care of their pets – quite the opposite. I love my dog and I don’t hesitate to take her to the vet whenever I think she needs to be seen. But you and I are at least as deserving of care and compassion as our dogs or cats are.
Here’s another way of looking at this issue: How would you feel if your spouse (or partner if you’re not married) always made sure your pet got the care it needed when it was hurt or sick, but ignored you when you needed care? I’m sure you would be angry and upset, and rightfully so.
If you take care of your pet when it’s not feeling well, but don’t take care of yourself when you’re not, you are essentially doing the same thing as your spouse was in the hypothetical situation I just described. Also, if you give your pet compassion and care but neglect yourself, you are sending yourself a message that you are not worthy of care and compassion. That message is not true, so don’t send it. Give yourself as much care and compassion as possible. You deserve it!
